Why men date other marrieds?
Talk about a loaded topic that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on since the beginning of the world. Extramarital relationships can be loaded with troubles, cause despair, and other troubles. Also you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness thing, funds, age difference, religious education, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, married man date.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are man seeking woman for affair. I suppose mostly though it is just the human nature, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us escape the real world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Somebody are able to turn the longing on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos humanity has erected against affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the fury of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your relatives or anyone else? You will need to reduce the hazard you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest group, enormous in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, except they are comfortable in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to think about. Your savings are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them implementing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair at times solves the problem while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Neglect, sorrowfully this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, usually the male is sexually neglecting his wife for a large humber of reasons. As a man I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “hot wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe caring is not here, maybe it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply grown apart, our common concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposite of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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